Confidence and Self-Esteem
In society today so much value is placed upon our external appearance. Age and size de-value us, and we live in an environment where pressure to conform has reached an all time high, and let's face it, we are breaking down from the pressure of it.
Did you know that one person in four, that’s 25% of our population, are suffering from anxiety? And that according to 2012 figures, about a million Australians are affected by some form of eating disorder? Pretty amazing that this is happening in the lucky country right? Disturbing is what I call it.
Now, like the cavemen of old, on some level we have this sense that we must hang together to make it. Just like wolves, we know that if we are isolated from the pack, that our chances of surviving the winter are minimal at best. Of course logically this is not really true for us, yet it is still there in our consciousness. We must belong to survive…the kicker is this, that way of living has passed, but we are still running on that old patterning. And what has that got to do with self esteem and confidence you might ask? Well quite a lot actually.
What is Self-Esteem?
Self esteem is a person's emotional evaluation of their own worth. It is a judgment as well as an attitude towards the self. It encompasses our beliefs about ourselves and is usually developed through an assessment of our environment and the events that take place in our lives .
Beliefs of course are developed by repeating a thought over and over and over, and eventually like concrete they set and become a part of our reality. Once we have a belief firmly placed in our minds we begin to look for information that supports our belief and we find it, of course we do, it's like when you buy a new car, suddenly you start to notice all those other cars that are just like yours, same colour, same make. If it's on your radar you will hear it, or see it. And this is where confidence comes in.
When we are collecting data that supports our evaluation or ourselves that is positive and life affirming we find it. So our confidence in our ability to do and be grows, which means we can extend our reach and do a little more which builds our confidence further and strengthens our self-esteem. It's a win-win situation.
Unfortunately, many people are carrying beliefs like;
- I'm not good enough
- I'm really stupid
- It's just too hard and I'll never make it
Information that supports those beliefs will also be found.
You will always find what you are looking for, so strengthening your self-esteem is probably the most important thing you can do for yourself if you want to improve your life and experience success. The benefits of doing so are immeasurable.
Have you ever wondered how it would be If we were to re-member ourselves, so that we can parent and friend and love as whole and complete beings? How it could be if we came home to our bodies and owned them – got comfortable in them and fully lived ?
How do you think that would impact in your home, your workplace, in the community?
Golda Meir, former President of Israel said this "Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement."
If you'd like to start making change now, call Transformational Therapy and speak to Karen personally on 0409 777 116.